Being Nice

Oh, I had like the best time today. Went to the beach for the first time in years…I had so much fun mostly ‘cos I went with the guys I work with. I have a close nit family that just makes life beautiful for me.

There’s something I want to talk about today that I’ve been meaning to talk about for a while now. Something happened today to remind me of it. I got invited to the beach by a very good friend and when I got there she asked me to come meet another friend of hers. Nicely I went to where this other lady was and tried to say hi. She didn’t even look up, just waved casually. I smiled…she reminded me of me 5/6 years ago. The bitch I was back then…lol

I was a bit nasty back in my ‘supermodel’ era. Not only nasty, but unfriendly and snobbish. The only friend I had then was Denrele Edun, and maybe 2 or 3 more people...others I just ignored, even when they tried to be friendly. That many people didn’t like me and I really didn’t care…not knowing what I was missing.

Now I’m totally the opposite of who I used to be and sincerely I can't remember at what point that transition occurred but I can tell you with all authority that it’s so much so much so much (I can’t over-emphasise it) better being nice to people than being nasty. There’s absolutely no gain in being snobbish, unfriendly and bitchy, but there’s a lot to gain in being nice.

I’ll tell you two stories.

I sent a friendship request on facebook to a celeb a couple of months ago. He rejected my request and sent me a nasty message. I was called a bitch and other nasty names. Apparently I wrote about him a long time ago on this blog and you guys left some crazy comments that he read and didn’t like. So he carried a grudge…and waited for when he’ll confront me. When I saw his very nasty and very dirty message, I smiled. The former me would have bitched back at him but instead I apologised and 'spoilt him with love'. He didnt expect 'the love' so didn't know how to respond. A few days later, he sent another message explaining why he called me names and now sent me a friendship request. I confirmed and well…we’re great friends now. You should see us chatting, you won’t believe how it all started. All I had to do was say sorry and be nice…

Seond story.
Someone sent me an email a while back calling me a thief, a whore, a bitch and many unprintable names. He said I took something from his website without giving him credit and wanted me to take down the post asap. The email was so nasty that I cringed at first, but I replied him with ‘Hi luv, I am so so sorry for taking your pictures…blah blah’. I actually got the pictures from another website but I didn’t bother explaining that…just apologised. Of course I had a choice of telling him to go f**k himself or just ignore him, but I did something he didn’t expect ‘cos he had been spoiling for war. My reply to him must have shocked him ‘cos he sent me an email apologising for insulting me and told me it was ok to leave the post up. You know what they say...'Spoil your enemy with love, it confuses them'. lol. We still send each other emails…we’re friends now.

Like I said before, all I had to do was be NICE. It takes nothing from you to be nice…nothing. Instead it brings you friendship, a good name and people will love you. Forget pride, embrace kindness and respect people. Don't go about thinking you're better than anyone, 'cos you're not. Don't look down on people because we're thesame in the eyes of God. When someone smiles at you and says hi, what does it take to smile back and say hi in return? Why snob people when you can hang out with them? What’s the big deal in saying ‘I’m sorry’ whether you’re right or wrong? It doesn’t make you small, instead it makes you a bigger person and it gets you respect and admiration from people because when you really think about it, who wants to be around a nasty person?

I’ve been nasty and I know how life was for me, now that I’m nice, I know how life is for me. I’ll tell you again, it so much better being nice and friendly…you have absolutely nothing to loose

If you’re nasty to people, I hope you change. you should. You won’t believe how much better life will be for you and how many more friends and good people you will find.
Do it for you and see the difference!

Thanks to everyone who sent me get well wishes.
I’m much better now!
See y’all tomorrow.
Love, L